The Couple Process
For people, one of the most known sources of conflict is resentment. Generated by a wish to have others live according to your own values, or by trying to run your life by using the values of another person, simmering resentment always spills into your behavior.
The problem is always that when you choose to live outside your own values for someone else’s sake, the “I am doing this for you” life, in a short while, you will want to go back to your original values and will no longer be willing to live in the other person’s values. At the same time, you will also start feeling resentment towards them because you’ve been acting like a different person.
Furthermore, when you project your values onto someone else and force a person to live accordingly, it is only normal they’ll start feeling resentment after some time just because they won’t feel love for who they really are. And, sadly, more than often, this will bring the relationship to the point of no return, where thoughts like “I cannot stand him/her anymore,” “S/he annoys me,” “I cannot stand the sight of him/her,” will become routine. So, this will further translate into attracting the same type of people if you do choose to leave the relationship without dissolving the resentment, and can’t make a personal shift and learn how to integrate these feelings and turn them into gratitude.
Benefits
- It’s the only method through which, by working on yourself you can create change in your partner
- You turn resentment and indignation into gratitude and allow yourself always to start over and take the relationship to the next level
- It transforms conflicting personal and professional relations into harmonious relationships
- It helps you understand how your value system works and how you can be yourself while being with someone else who is also true to themselves without wishing that your partner aligns with your values
- The programme helps you integrate solid principles to your relationship, and also how to balance them both as couples and as individuals
In case of divorce or break-ups, it helps you understand and integrate the blessing of the relationship and not repeat the previous patterns
Benefits
- It’s the only method through which, by working on yourself you can create change in your partner
- You turn resentment and indignation into gratitude and allow yourself always to start over and take the relationship to the next level
- It transforms conflicting personal and professional relations into harmonious relationships
- It helps you understand how your value system works and how you can be yourself while being with someone else who is also true to themselves without wishing that your partner aligns with your values
- The programme helps you integrate solid principles to your relationship, and also how to balance them both as couples and as individuals
In case of divorce or break-ups, it helps you understand and integrate the blessing of the relationship and not repeat the previous patterns
Structure of the programme*
- The first step of the programme is to identify the traits, actions, and lack of actions seen as unfavorable, which also have a negative emotional charge of the person we want to change. Then, we will proceed in determining the ones of a person we admire, while identifying positive emotions that are closely connected to them.
- The second step of the process is to take a closer look at the emotions that have a negative emotional charge and bring them into equilibrium. The goal of this stage is to no longer attract the same kind of events in your life by feeling resentment towards what happened. Thus, by applying the law of duality, which says that imposing a limit will lead to the manifestation of its opposite, you will start seeing that the things that happened were the ones that actually served you in fulfilling your personal priorities.
- The third step is balancing the traits you admire. The end goal of this step is to dissolve the fear of losing, which is present in the relationship. More than often, the fear of losing something will make us become possessive, irrational, and by an unfortunate turn of events, will cause the opposite of what we wish: to attract that person. Thus, you will see that for the traits you want to shine the light on, they come not only with benefits, but also with disadvantages.
The fourth step is to apply the hierarchical system of personal priorities. Here you will learn how to communicate in conformity with your personal priorities and those of your partner, as well as how your partner’s personal priorities serve your personal priorities.
* In the case of a break-up, the programme does not guarantee reconciliation, although it is often the result. The program guarantees that no matter the decision you make, you master your decisions in a balanced way and for your own benefit.